High School Drama... can we be any more childish?

[DragonHeart95]

So, wednesday, I was told by one of my best friends that someone at my High School started a rumor about me.
The rumor was that me and this guy i hang out with all the time, (who happens to be one of my best friends) are "talking dirty."
The rumor has been changing as its been spreading, (like all rumors do) and its gotten progressively worse.
Yesterday, my best friend told me that a few people that I was friends with were talking about both the rumor, and me, behind my back at lunch! :mad: ...and they've been helping to spread it around. (and those people got mad at my bestfriend for telling me! :p)
~and what's worse, i have no idea who started it....:( and i've never done AnyThing like that with him.

Honestly, i dont know what to do! like really?!? How Childish Can You Be?!?? We Are in High School! not 3rd grade! :P

~~just wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this?~~
*or advice about what to do....*

[D.C.Rage]

In life there are always idiots and bullies. We can't control what others do or say, only how we respond to those things that have been done and said. When I reacted to the crap people said, it got worse. When I rolled my eyes and refused to acknowledge it... it eventually stopped. There are some people who never grow up and never stop trying to crap all over those around them. I just refuse to participate. My favorite response to crap like you're going through is to say, "Ya know what? Your opinion doesn't matter to me, and my REAL friends know what you're saying is bullshit." I don't know... If I'd slept with even half the people I have been accused of sleeping with there'd still be a line around the block waiting to get in and I'd never get anything done. Just try this: Look at the idiots saying that stuff and ask yourself...Is this gonna matter in 5 years? 10? Probably not. Good luck, and I hope things get better for you soon....

[DragonHeart95]

thanks.. me too..
what confuses me is... i've done the whole ignore and roll my eyes thing my whole life... i dont understand is why it started now, out of no where..
And it bugs me that i dont even know who started it, or is saying it, nobody has even said anything to me about... i didnt even know about it until my friend told me...
(and thank goodness she did.. i loves her for it)

and the other thing is... if it continues.. i dont want a reputation for my next 2 yrs of high school... that doesnt fit me..or people to remember me like that... ya know?

[DragonHeart95]

"Ya know what? Your opinion doesn't matter to me, and my REAL friends know what you're saying is bullshit."


and thanks its soo true

[D.C.Rage]

You will probably never know for sure who started it... truth is it doesn't really matter and I doubt anyone really remembers who first told who... If you rise above the crap your reputation will rise with you. People who matter will respect you more for having the fortitude not to sink into the crap and roll around in the manure... hang in there kiddo, high school is only 4 years of your life... you gotta lot of living yet to do and it will get better! :)

[hitekredneck]

Truth=kids can be subhuman at times when it comes to cruelty
Truth=most rumors are nothing more than simple trolling for reaction to make them feel better
Truth=if you react to the rumors, by the time you graduate it will have changed to a "gang bang"
simply ignoring the rumors will not make them go away, but it will show that you really do not give a rats ass what people say or think of you...as long as YOU know the truth, then nothing else matters

[buttless_wonder]

You can do with my advice as you choose but understand this come from one with 50 years of life experience.

1. I know VERY few people who have maintained any of the relationships they had in HS. It's just how life works. You either go off to college or find work and move on with you life.

2. Two years is not a long time. I know at your age it seems like an eternity and that is because those two years make up a larger percentage of your life experience than they do for somebody my age.

3. This will pass as do all things. After awhile there will be a new rumor going around about somebody else and your rumor will be forgotten.

3. The hell with those fucktards.


Make a point of going to your ten year HS reunion and take a close look at those who are giving you heartache now. Chances are they will be either flipping burgers or mowing grass for a landscaping company.

HS is nothing more than a proving ground that is not only academic but social and emotional. Your life will be full of stupid situations to be dealt with. From what you have posted you are on the right path of just ignoring these losers.

[yee-haw]

Well said BW...

That is sound advice!

[MrRee]

Hmmmmmm
I graduated in 1958 and my class has a get-togather comeing up the 26th here in Florida for those that winter or live here.
They also have another each summer in the old Michigan hometown.
A few do not attend either one but many go to both.
They also keep in touch through facebook & e-mail.

MOST of them really like it!

[DragonHeart95]

D.C.~~ lol. nah i dont plan on sinking in the manure :D when it comes to this kinda stuff i dont show any emotion about it.
Hitek~~true, and thanks
B.W.~~thanks for the advice, i'll keep it mind :) both number 3's are my favorite xD lol

Thanks Guys :)

i just hope it doesn't take long for someone to start one about someone else.... however bad that may seem, cuz i wouldnt want any rumors going around about anyone =/ but i guess i just hope it doesnt take too long for it to die out..

[sunny]

just keep ignoring them...

If someone says something to you, then just state that often time people get jealous, so that have to make up stuff... but, you are not going to give life to any rumor by acknowledging it...

[DragonHeart95]

just keep ignoring them...

If someone says something to you, then just state that often time people get jealous, so that have to make up stuff... but, you are not going to give life to any rumor by acknowledging it...

Okay :)
and believe me, wasnt plannin on giving this one (or any other rumor) anyyy life at all :)

[eyeonyou]

High School drama is always childish except the violent part.

But 90% + look back on those years knowing how much fun it was even with all the drama. Most miss those years even if one is real happy.

But the earlier posts about paying no attention to it when you can is very good advice. Or sometimes.......

One rumor about me that was swirling around had to do with me being with the New teacher. Some believed it and some didn't. Well it wasn't true, but I tried to make it be though. LOL But it was so out there that the Principal had me in his office to ask me about it. I denied it of course as it never happened.

She was a fox and only 22. After she found out about it and that I had been to the Principal's office. She made it very hard on me. She flirted and flashed and drove me nuts. The guys noticed her doing it to me and it just gave the story life and me, well I was a hero. As real as it seemed, today she probably would have at least been questioned by law enforcement. Shoot my Mom heard about it even, from Dad, he patted me on the back.

It's a male thing. :D Except when females do it. :)

Ah to be 17 and a star in your own mind! LOL

[peepers]

Ahh high school I remember those days. Me, I just didn't pay any attention to it. Some advice though take things people say as a grain of salt because two years after you graduate you probably won't even remember anything from high school other then the good memories.

[eyeonyou]

Ahh high school I remember those days. Me, I just didn't pay any attention to it. Some advice though take things people say as a grain of salt because two years after you graduate you probably won't even remember anything from high school other then the good memories.
I realize that you are speaking from recent experience I believe so your advice is solid because it is current.

Even if some things that were bad are remembered, it will mean very little to nothing in most cases.

Some do come out of there damaged by what happened to them, but usually a strong mind wins out anyway. There are some that were really abused one way or another but we can choose most of the time how bad something is in the end. Some choose to let things effect them badly, some of us do NOT!

High School is a good time to decide if one wants to be an optimist or a pessimist!

[beelzebub]

Ahh high school I remember those days.

Hell Peeps,... that was what??? like 1-3 years ago??

You are speaking like its a distant memory,... LOL

[beelzebub]

? How Childish Can You Be?!?? We Are in High School! not 3rd grade! :P
~~just wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this?~~*or advice about what to do....*

Yeah,.. kids are just DOWN RIGHT MEAN. I should know they were ruthless to me.

Obama has it right "It gets better."

I feel it got better as soon as I got out of my shell and surrounded myself with other smart and interesting people.

[DragonHeart95]

Eye~~ LOL nicee xD
Peepers~~lol hopefully thats all i remember :) and Bub has a point xD
Bub~~Yes they are. and yeah it does.. and idk what more i can do. lol i am not one of the quiet kept-to-myself lol. i know so many people, and have so many friends, i loose track of them all sometimes. LOL
*but definately NOT a prep* i despise them :P (for the record) :)

[Carrot]

It's like she stepped out of a high school movie.

[DragonHeart95]

Lol right though carrot. xD

[DragonHeart95]

but anyway...
thanks, everybody, for the great advice :)
and ~Carrot~ i'm in high hopes that this movie has a happy ending :D