Ever Feel like you get pushed aside

[twisted_screams]

In last couple of hours i have done nothing but cry. I am so tired of feeling like i am always second to everything.

My handicapped son may have something majorly wrong with him and we had to go to the doctor today. Which is upsetting enough but then as we are sitting there waiting to get in Jim sister calls him and says she needs to talk to him alone right away and to leave me at home. So he tries to ask her whats wrong and nothing she won't tell him over the phone. So he leaves me waiting at the doctors office to go find out only to come back a few minutes later saying that his sister had to go back to work for a moment when she gets back she calls him at the doctors again asking when in the hell is he coming over he says that he will be there soon and asks again what is the problem she still won't tell him he has to be told in person. So we are in the doctors office he is getting snippy with me and i am trying to ask him what could possibly wrong he says they won't tell him. ( at this point i would have called back and said either you tell me over the phone or i am not coming) but no not Jim.

Then the doctor comes in and she wants to know why my son lost 16 pounds in the last year that there is no reason why he would loose that much unless i wasnt watching what he ate which is utter bull shit because i cook meals and we eat together. She then keeps asking me if i have done drugs or did i drink during pregnancy is this wrong in my family or is that wrong then she starts asking about family health and as she does this she checks my son over and over, ( which i didn't care) then she starts saying that there could be something majorly wrong with him and that he needs blood tests so i ask like what and she basically said i will talk to you more about it when i get tests but she keeps asking about cancer and leukemia constantly all the while JIm is there not saying much worried about his family.
She wants stool urine and blood work and still won't tell me what for. Other then this weight lose could be serious.

So once again i am sitting there and feeling like i am purposely being treated like shit first by Jims family ( leave me at home) and now the doc. So we leave the doctors office and jim just wants to drop me off at the blood place all alone and i started bitching because i think me ( his future wife ) and our son ( seth is jims son from way back when i was 18 we got back together) is being pushed aside to find out the drama in his family. So i am crying and he basically drops me and my son off at the door and runs to his family to see whats wrong there telling me tomorrow we will take seth for the blood work.

I can't help but be angry i feel so damn alone. I went threw similar shit like this with my x husband we always got pushed aside for his family. I can't and won't go through being treated like this again. I took so much shit from my last marriage and most of it was because i was pushed aside for others and now when i need JIm the most he is off with his family. Damn i just wish i knew what to do.

[Ape-Shit]

Well twisted, the first thing you are going to have to realize is the fact that you have no control on the behavior of others. The second thing, is for you to take what comes your way one step or one day at a time.

The Dr.'s inquiring is normal. The questions asked are needed to associate the symptoms which could also address the illness (if even one exist). So put that behind you and move forward.

I had a similar situation where I was loosing weight, but eating like a horse. Come to find out, it was caused by stress. Turned out to be no big deal.

So don't get yourself all worked up over what might turn out to be nothing. What ever happens, will happen and you can not do anything about that. As time goes on, things will all work its way out, no matter what, things will always work out. So take a deep breath and relax!

In-laws are always (mostly 99.9% of the time) a pain in the ass. That's to be expected, so come to the realization that that is just how they operate and there is nothing you can do about that. Especially when prior options have been made and feelings of animosity may be surfacing.

As for Jim, you may want to have a talk to him and let him know your feelings. Perhaps you two can work things out, but remember, he is kinda in the middle and being pulled at both sides. Frustration and anger only makes things worse.

I hope this helps somewhat.

[conspiracy]

I hope things get better for you. At least you have this place to bitch about the sucky parts of life.

[twisted_screams]

Well twisted, the first thing you are going to have to realize is the fact that you have no control on the behavior of others. The second thing, is for you to take what comes your way one step or one day at a time.

The Dr.'s inquiring is normal. The questions asked are needed to associate the symptoms which could also address the illness (if even one exist). So put that behind you and move forward.

I had a similar situation where I was loosing weight, but eating like a horse. Come to find out, it was caused by stress. Turned out to be no big deal.

So don't get yourself all worked up over what might turn out to be nothing. What ever happens, will happen and you can not do anything about that. As time goes on, things will all work its way out, no matter what, things will always work out. So take a deep breath and relax!

In-laws are always (mostly 99.9% of the time) a pain in the ass. That's to be expected, so come to the realization that that is just how they operate and there is nothing you can do about that. Especially when prior options have been made and feelings of animosity may be surfacing.

As for Jim, you may want to have a talk to him and let him know your feelings. Perhaps you two can work things out, but remember, he is kinda in the middle and being pulled at both sides. Frustration and anger only makes things worse.

I hope this helps somewhat.

Thank you what you said really does help and i appericate your friendship

[starry123nights]

I know it sucks sometimes. Sorry to hear your son's doctor appointment didn't go so well today.

It's always hard having to deal with the in-laws. It's a thin line between love and hate. I understand.

Seems your family has alot of stressful things going on right now. I sometimes think if I'm gonna be this damn miserable, I can be this miserable by myself. It sucks not being appreciated and feeling alone. But then I think, shit I'm a strong woman. I can handle this. Then I either have a heart to heart talk with the husband, or I have a get your fucking act together dude, cuz I ain't doing this by my damn self. If you want me to do this alone, I can. At least I'm not fucking miserable unless I want to be, not because I have to be.

Remember, tomorrow is a new day.

[twisted_screams]

Yeah your right. It was just a really really really sucky ass day yesterday. Jim and i talked things over everything will be alright.

[yea_thats_right1]

Yeah your right. It was just a really really really sucky ass day yesterday. Jim and i talked things over everything will be alright.

well im glad that everything is better now... inlaws are such a pain in the ass.. mine dont like me either if that makes you feel any better! So was the thing with his family worth him leaving you at the blood place?

[General Septem]

I'm glad things are alright now.